A Matter of Death and Life
内容简介
'Wise, beautiful, heartbreaking, raw' The Times
'A beacon of hope to all of us who will be bereaved' Kathryn Mannix
'An unforgettable and achingly beautiful story of enduring love' Lori Gottleib
Internationally renowned psychiatrist and author Irvin Yalom has devoted his career to counselling those suffering from anxiety and grief. But never had he faced the need to counsel himself until his wife, esteemed feminist author Marilyn Yalom, was diagnosed with cancer. In A MATTER OF DEATH AND LIFE, Marilyn and Irvin share how they took on profound new struggles: Marilyn to die a good death, Irvin to live on without her.
In alternating accounts of their last months together and Irvin's first months alone, they offer us a rare window into coping with death and the loss of one's beloved. The Yaloms had rare blessings - a loving family, a beautiful home, a large circle of friends, avid readers around the world, and a long, fulfilling marriage - but they faced death as we all do. With the candour and wisdom of those who have thought deeply and loved well, they investigate universal questions of intimacy, love, and grief.
Informed by two lifetimes of experience, A MATTER OF DEATH AND LIFE offers poignant insights and solace to all those seeking to fight despair in the face of death, so that they can live meaningfully.
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作者简介
Dr Irvin Yalom is an emeritus professor of psychiatry at Stanford University and the author of many books, including Creatures of a Day and the bestselling Love’s Executioner. He and his wife, the author Marilyn Yalom, live in Palo Alto, California.
Marilyn Yalom is a senior scholar at the Clayman Institute for Gender Research at Stanford University, and the author of A History of the Wife, among other books. She lives in Palo Alto, CA, with her husband, Irvin.
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目录
Preface
1 The Vital Box
2 Becoming an Invalid
3 Awareness of Evanescence
4 Why Don’t We Move to Assisted Living?
5 Retirement: The Precise Moment of Decision
6 Setbacks and Renewed Hopes
7 Staring at the Sun, Once Again
8 Whose Death Is This Anyway?
9 Facing Endings
10 Considering Physician-Assisted Suicide
11 A Tense Countdown to Thursday
12 A Complete Surprise
13 So Now You Know
14 Death Sentence
15 Farewell to Chemotherapy – and to Hope
16 From Palliative Care to Hospice
17 Hospice Care
18 A Soothing Illusion
19 French Books
20 The End Approaches
21 Death Arrives
22 The After-Death Experience
We Will Remember
23 Life as an Independent, Separate Adult
24 Home Alone
25 Sex and Grief
26 Unreality
27 Numbness
28 Help from Schopenhauer
29 Denial Revealed
30 Stepping Out
31 Indecisiveness
32 On Reading My Own Work
33 Seven Advanced Lessons in the Therapy of Grief
34 My Education Continues
35 Dear Marilyn
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读书文摘
亚隆曾在书中描述过，一些病人精神科出身的亚隆，在书中通常称来访者为“病人”）会对他房间中的装饰评头品足，对花园里的植物指指点点，抱怨坏了的纱门怎么老不修，调侃他为什么不换空了的纸巾盒。对于一般人来说，这都是看似与治疗无关的细节，但亚隆却能从中看到“每个人不同的内部世界，同样的刺激对不同的人有不同的意义”
我宁舍天下一切……天下一切……只要能看她脸上的那一抹微笑
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