Set Boundaries, Find Peace
内容简介
The instant New York Times bestseller
End the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself.
Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?
Licensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology--and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.
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作者简介
Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times bestselling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 14 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.
Nedra has been featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Self, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including The School of Greatness, Therapy for Black Girls, and The Skinny Confidential. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As. Nedra currently lives in Charlotte, NC, with her husband and two children.
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读书文摘
如果一个人有意要让你感到难过或内疚，毫无疑问他在对你进行情感操纵。这是一个人实现自己需求的惯用手段。实施情感操纵的人会希望你因为某事而感到愧疚，从而顺从或赞同他的想法，即使你并没有做任何值得愧疚的事。
练习 在一张纸上完成以下练习： ①在你家，父母通常用什么方式使你了解界限？ ②你的父母或看护人尊重你的界限吗？他们以什么方式来体现对界限的尊重？ 中 ③你的界限是如何被侵犯的？ ④你何时开始意识到自己很难设定界限？ ⑤对你来说，设定界限最困难的部分是什么？
阻止我们设定界限的思维模式 无法充分设定界限的9个潜在原因： 害怕被人瞧不起。 担心会撕破脸 总想取悦别人 对设定界限后的交往感到焦虑 对设定界限信心不足 想通过帮助他人来实现自己的价值 把自己被拒绝的感受投射到别人身上 感觉无从下手
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